[P2P] Welcome New Baby!
Two weeks ago, our family went from three to four.
After a solid week of prodromal labor (on top of Braxton Hicks contractions), I was melodramatic and thought I’d never go into labor! The day before my daughter was born after hours of (increasing) regular contractions, I finally called the Advice Nurse and was told that I must be in “false labor” because I could talk through the contractions. So I hung up the phone and started crying.
Well it was not false labor. When the bloody show changed and I started bleeding, we called L&D again and grudgingly made our way to the hospital. And just for the record, even at that point, I could talk through contractions just fine.
My daughter (the newest addition to the family) was born after about four hours of active labor and three minutes of pushing in an un-medicated birth. It was fast, intense, emotional, yet very rewarding! Luckily I had both my wonderful husband and sister for support and I knew my son was in great hands at home with his grandparents visiting in town for this occasion.
Now that I have the opportunity to hold my daughter, I think about all the deliberation and anxiety I had when deciding to have another child. I worried about how my family would be, I worried about my time and business, I worried about finances, I worried about lots of other things, but most importantly I worried about how my son would cope.
Pregnancy to Parenting
I knew we’d face some kind of challenges with the huge life change, but I expected bedwetting or resentment towards the new baby. Instead, we’re facing meltdowns, especially around nap-time. While I know that part of these storms are age related, the other part is the change. We’re working through it – some days better than others. I’m putting forth my best efforts to stay calm amidst sleep deprivation by remembering to validate my three year old’s feelings. It’s okay for him to feel angry and this is a great opportunity to teach him that he can acknowledge those feelings and give him tools to handle the intense feelings.
But on the bright side, I’m now second to the baby. My son rushes into our room in the morning to snuggle with his new sister instead of me. He talks about her all the time at school and can’t wait to show her off. It’s darling and nothing feels better than to see your children just love each other. We’re even at the point where we have to kindly ask big brother to give baby sister some space! But it won’t be long before she can tell him herself.
Time goes so quickly. In fact, we’re now in the middle of the two-week growth spurt and it feels like I had her just yesterday. So despite the sleep deprivation, exhaustion, and sore nipples that accompanies growth spurts, I’m trying to remember these times because it will be the last. I have my son and daughter and I feel like our family is now complete. And that’s a great feeling!